My Husband’s Family Comes Uninvited and Stays for Days.
I’m married with two children, and my husband and I live in a 4-bedroom bungalow which he built.
I have a problem and it’s his family!
They have a habit of coming to our house without informing us beforehand, and when they come, they don’t just stay for a few hours. They can stay for several days.
I don’t mind them visiting . They are family, and I want to have a good relationship with them. But the problem is that whenever they come, the responsibility of taking care of everyone will now fall on me.
I already have two children to look after, plus the normal housework and everything that comes with running a home. Once they arrive, I have extra people to cook for. Breakfast, lunch, dinner, snacks… it becomes meal after meal for days.
What makes it worse is that they hardly help with anything. I’m expected to cook, clean and make sure everyone is comfortable while they relax.
Sometimes they just arrive and announce that they are staying for a few days. No call ahead, no asking if it’s convenient. I’m an only child, so maybe I see family visits differently, but I find it really difficult to adjust to this.
I have spoken to my husband about it, but I’m scared of pushing the issue too much because I don’t want him to feel like I’m trying to separate him from his family.
I keep asking myself: because he built the house, does that mean his family can come and stay whenever they want, even when it puts a lot of pressure on me?
I love my husband and I respect his family, but I also feel like I deserve some consideration in my own home.
Am I being unreasonable, shouldn’t my husband be the one to set boundaries with his family? Please How would you handle this situation?
